I had to write an issue essay for getting a job, CAN U BELIEVE THAT? Hope I get it, I am feeling VERY workless right now...... This is the essay I wrote, (The Topic is the first line)
(This was written 4 months back when I applied for an UCIT job. I have four blogs, so trying to unify them , this was in another blog till now.....again a repost)
Yes, The greatest griefs are those we cause ourselves. Infact I would stress that most of the griefs are caused due to our inability to face the consequences of our choices. The griefs I am talking about are, in addition to the everyday burdens we bring upon ourselves, the all-pervasive but latent grieves: the constantly pestering feeling that we can be better than this, that our talents are not being appreciated, that we are but a tiny grain in a world that is the sandy beach. Believe me when I say it, there is nothing more painful than your conscious eating you away.
So, what causes all this? Choices- because, our choices are what we are. In hindsight every choice we haven't made appeals more to us. The real test is to stick to your choice, whatever the consequence. But, to do that you need to really make sure it is YOUR choice, not a choice affected by others or the extant fad. And once you make your choice, never regret it; never look at a more successful actor and think, had I been an actor? because you are not. Realize that you can be successful in what you do too. As the cliché goes “One's own work, though defective, is better than other's, well done". The real happiness is not when you are famous or rich but when you are at peace with yourself.
What I am saying, in effect is this- For a student, for example, procrastination is the most mundane problem, result of which are the late submissions and poor grades. Obviously, this leads to many nightless sleeps and solitary ponderings. Ask yourself who caused it?
So why bring it on yourself when all you need to do is make the right choice? Of course, it’s easier said than done. So, either procrastinate procrastination or take whatever grade results from the sloppy work without remorse. Just remember that “As you sow, so shall you reap”. Directly or indirectly you are responsible for the consequences. So, instead of feeling sad about the results, assure yourself that you are responsible for them. I can promise you can avoid many a personal griefs that way (Grades are only an example; apply this to any realm of your life).
Moving to the latter part of my second paragraph, there’s more to life than a single choice. Like a chain reaction you need to follow up on your initial choice to choose where you end up. Chances are that you could have made a wrong choice, but then the real courage is in admitting that you DID make a wrong choice and start making choices that would best it. Life is a living hell when you start thinking of all the other choices you could have made and all the other places you could have ended up in or all the endeavors you could have pursued. Instead realize that what you are are what you chose to be. That way you will never feel insignificant or feel all those latent griefs I mentioned.
Like in a Fractal, these griefs are encompassed into the smallest of our activities to the whole chain of events that is our life. They are omnipresent; as they are the result of a population that is, may be, acting in the Freudian self-denial. They are the greatest griefs, because they are us, our dreams; haunting and unfulfilled. Time might heal the momentary griefs but these reside deep within you, gnawing you. Take a moment and think(the benches beside UC Tennis courts would be my suggestion)-
Who brought them upon you?
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